Background: Known each other for over 2 years through mutual friends, together for a little over a year, lived together for 6 months. I knew he has a kid. I am a single parent myself. But totally missed the signs that he’s married. I don’t know if he’s just THAT good at hiding it or I’m just THAT dumb. I met his kid, his friends, his dad. We were living together for half a year, FFS! Though he only spends 3-4 days with me and never home on the weekends because of “daddy duties.” When I broke the news that I’m pregnant, I’m suddenly met with a “I can’t do this. I’ll lose my family.” Okaaaay. Don’t worry, I already dumped his ass.
Now on to the real problem: he wants to stay involved with the kid. I’m in a position where I can support myself and my kids so I’m not exactly keen on that proposition. I feel like he’s only offering support because he’s guilty and it’s just shut the side chick up money. Also, should I tell his wife? I’m a product of a “broken” family and I know how it’s like losing a dad to an affair. Am I being too nice on him by letting him get away from his responsibilities that easily and not wanting to “ruin” his family?
TL;DR: I’m pregnant, he’s married but wants to play daddy.
EDIT: I’m from the Philippines. Oh the woes of being a third world-er. Thank you all so much for the good advice. Can’t reply to all but do know that I read each and every one of them and are taken into consideration. Thank you again!