Hi! So, I just broke up with my boyfriend of over 2 years the other day. One of the biggest problems in our relationship was that I never got enough out of him, whether it was attention, affection, or support. I would ask for these things, and he would oblige, but not for long. At a certain point, I feel like I shouldn’t have to ask for those things. He was very insistent on making things better between us, but I can’t put myself in that position. I can’t wait any longer. I made the decision to leave for myself because I feel I deserve more.
I am notorious for getting over relationships quickly. I really feel that I did the best for myself and I don’t like to hold on to that negativity. I cherish the 2+ years I had with him more than anything, but at the same time, I’m excited to rediscover myself and the single life.
The problem is that our mutual friends have told me that he is not taking this well at all. Because I’ve cared for him so deeply, because I’ve loved him so hard, I feel terrible that I’ve just left him like that. I feel sad for him but happy for myself, in a way? I check up on him through mutual friends, and that’s all I can really do. But it gets to me. Should I really be this sad about him being sad? I just don’t know what caring TOO much in this situation is. And I feel like it’s still holding me back from the happiness that I wanted to explore from ending it with him.
TL;DR I broke up with my boyfriend because I felt I deserved more. I’m ready to move past it but the fact that he’s so upset about it makes me upset and I don’t know what to do.