Hi, everyone. This is such a bizarre story that I don’t know exactly where to start.
Up until about three years ago, my father was an extremely successful lawyer making a six-figure salary. He was a well-respected member of the community and I had a great relationship with him. He inspired me to go to law school too.
Then, seemingly all of a sudden, it just stopped. Two years ago, my mom went to the doctor and her insurance was denied. When she called me dad’s company, they told her he hadn’t worked there for several months and that we had no insurance – all this time, he had been putting on a suit and just going *nowhere*, lying to my mom and siblings the entire time.
He has essentially burned through all of our family’s money. He has sold random possessions in order to get quick cash and worked a variety of odd jobs. He has probably called every single family member we have asking for money. I recently found out that he called my *eighteen* year-old sister to ask her to “spot him” for a week. She’s in college! He went to a loan shark at some point. Our home’s utilities are in a constant state of flux. The water and electricity have been shut off for stretches. Thankfully I don’t live there anymore, but I feel sorry for my little brother who does. The last time I was home, I snooped through some documents and found a notice of foreclosure. I don’t know what’s going to happen now.
For the past year, he’s been working as a part-time waiter at a casual restaurant. The thing is though, that he is very much in-demand for the job he is actually qualified for. He could set himself up with a job as a lawyer with a few phone calls – he just won’t do it for some reason.
His personality has completely changed as well. Before a few years ago, I don’t think I had ever once heard him raise his voice. Now he screams and throws a fit whenever anything goes slightly wrong. I tried to ask him about what’s going on a few weeks ago and he went on some crazy rant about it’s “his world and we’re all living in it.”
I don’t even remotely know how to go about approaching this. Does anyone have any advice?
tl;dr My dad’s personality and behavior have radically changed, and I need advice.