35 thoughts on “ignorance

  1. Gradytron February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    I never understood what trying harder entailed in these situations…
    I asked you out and you said no… that shit is done.
    Do you want a song and dance?
    Should I ask you out while yelling?

  2. ASmokinHotGrill February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    Because he’s a decent dude who understands the meaning of “no” and doesn’t want to make girls uncomfortable after they express no interest in him.

  3. LindaMags February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    Why would you do that? Why would anyone do that?

    Attractive people problems?

  4. hannahisawkward February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    This also makes it worse for the girls that actually mean NO; some guys see stuff like this and get it in their heads that every girl that rejects them is just playing hard to get and that they should continue harassing them

  5. Prophet_Of_Loss February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    Playing these silly games in today’s world will get you a cat and a solitary all-consuming hobby.

  6. Lington February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    Ruining it for all of us who actually mean no and do not want you to ask again

  7. TonyOOoo February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    Oh no. I showed my wife this and she looked at me dead serious and says “What, I don’t get it”

  8. RogueAngel February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    No means NO.

    We’ve learned to accept it; you should, too.

  9. mysteryodour February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    Update: He’s now standing outside my bedroom window at 3am each morning with a boombox, playing Peter Gabriel.
    My dad is pissed. I told him to stop but he keeps coming back. Why won’t he stop?

  10. is_landen February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    Is there a subreddit for stupid Quora questions?

  11. doogiedc February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    You can’t have it both ways now. There is no “playing hard to get.” If a woman says no, it’s over. There is no room for nuance anymore.

  12. Dakkonfire February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    Because these days trying harder will get you slapped with a sexual harassment complaint.

  13. bonniegrenier February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    Did you really expect him to beg? Isn’t that ridiculous? Do YOU like to beg?

  14. EmperorOfCanada February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    Especially in this age of metoo, playing hard to get is just making sure that you are filtering for arrogant assholes only.

  15. djs758 February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    This shit is all over Cosmo. The “play hard to get” thing is what girls are told is good relationship strategy.

    And then a situation happens like with Aziz Ansari where the girl does everything he wants but she’s secretly not happy and he doesn’t notice until she says she’s not happy–and then she blames him for her unhappiness, when she wouldn’t even speak up and say she wanted red wine instead of white.

  16. boxing_day_puppy February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    A spinster was asked why she never married.

    “I didn’t realize the last time I was proposed to would be the last”.

  17. z0mb1es February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    I think this is where those persistent creepy dudes comes from

  18. aotus_trivirgatus February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    This bit of wisdom from Lori Gottlieb, written in 2005, belongs here:

    > Sometimes merely having a thought counts as communication. Like
    > if I’m thinking, “Steve better get me that iPod for my birthday,” but
    > Steve gets me flowers instead, it’s proof that, boy, he can’t communicate
    > at all. Oh, he may try to communicate in his limited male way. He may
    > ask, “What would you like for your birthday?” And I may say, “I don’t
    > need a gift.” And when I’m disappointed with the flowers, he may even
    > ask, “Honey, what’s wrong?” What’s wrong is that I wanted an iPod.
    > But if I have to explain it, never mind…


    (edit: formatting)

  19. neville_bartos666 February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    if he had tried harder, then this question would have been:

    “why are guys so creepy?”

  20. WatermelonFrisbee February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    I hate girls who want guys to “work hard to get them”

  21. woomies February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    But if he asks you out again, it’s just confirmation that he’s a weird creep with poor listening skills

  22. salenth February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    These days it’s enthusiastic consent or nothing. Sorry, bb.

  23. zephyer19 February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    I ran a mailroom in an office. A woman came there twice a day to get office’s mail. So, we talked a lot and had similar interests. I asked her out three times and finally got the message she didn’t want to go out with me.
    When I was leaving, along with a few other people there was a going away party thrown for all of us at a pizza place. She came up to me and told me “I wanted to go out with you but, I wanted you to send me flowers or chocolates or some romantic gesture first.
    I told her “Play to hard to get and you don’t get got.”

  24. cobalteight February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    As a woman, fuck women who do this hard-to-get shit.

  25. NorthwestSmith February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    No means no. No means try again. No means I don’t know. No means if you try again you’re a stalker unless she decides it doesn’t mean that, in which case, then no means a conditional yes, or a maybe.

  26. lkennyb February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    If a woman turned me down for a date just because she wanted me to try harder, I would no longer be interested in dating her anyway.

  27. notorioushackr4chan February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    It’s almost as if guys don’t want to pressure a girl into going out with them because they think it would make them uncomfortable. Huh go figure

  28. Skipadedodah February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    It takes enough courage to ask the first time only be met with rejection. Why the hell would she think he would put himself through humiliation on purpose?

  29. pardonmyabsence February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    it’s the insecure female’s inherent need to feel desired beyond normal standards

  30. Asylumsix February 12, 2018 / 7:28 am

    No normal guy ever said.. I love head games, I wish more girls played head games…

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