We have been exclusive for 2 months, finally took the next step and we had sex for the first time last night. I was a virgin at the time, she obviously was not. I had not mentioned my virginity prior to now (I have made that mistake before), but she had never asked. Nor did I ask her about her history. She is on the pill, and we used a condom. No worries so far.
Fastforward to afterwards, we were cuddling and I jokingly mentioned that sex was better than I had imagined. She asked what I meant, and I told her that I had not had sex before this. She knew I was inexperienced, but I think she just assumed I wasn’t a virgin.
She got very upset about this, and was pretty angry. She said that by hiding it from her, it meant that she wasn’t able to make an informed decision about whether she wanted to proceed with having sex with me. I told her that she never asked, but she said that it is my responsibility to disclose important sexual information like this, the same way that she told me she was on the pill. She said that it was similar to having to disclose if you have an STD, so that the other person can make an informed decision and decide if they want to give consent.
I asked if she would have still done it if I had told her, but she said thats not the point because she didn’t get the chance to make that decision. She got pretty emotional and asked me to leave so that she can think things over, and I haven’t heard from her since and she hasn’t answered my texts.
So my question here; am I in the wrong, or is she overreacting? If I’m in the wrong, what could/should I do to try and fix things? And I am a little concerned, could this became a legal issue?
I want to make things right and keep this relationship going, because I genuinely care for her and since we had sex I feel even more strongly for her. But at the same time, I don’t want to dwell on this and feel guilty if I didn’t actually do the wrong thing.
**tl;dr:** Had sex with my gf, didn’t tell her I was a virgin. She said that it meant she couldn’t make an informed decision about consent, and it was my responsibility to disclose it (similar to if I had an STD or something else that effects sex). She is not speaking to me currently, am I in the wrong?