We’ve been dating for a little over 4 months now. Things have been going well overall but there are a few things that make me think my girlfriend is settling for me.
The first sign came early on in the relationship. I know I am not very “well endowed”, but she has made it a point to really emphasize how big it is, and how satisfying the sex is. I do my part in the bedroom, and am in no means bad in bed, but this girl has been with many other men in the past, some of which I know for a fact are packing some serious heat down there. It struck me as odd that she would lie about this unprovoked, as I am not one to be openly self-conscious about that sort of thing.
She also keeps in contact with a guy she was madly in love with, but the feelings weren’t mutual. She puts in tons of effort to maintain this friendship, and from what I can tell gets very little back. It’s gotten to the point that she is rearranging our plans together to fit in time to see him.
It’s almost like she has me around…just to be around. Like she wants a boyfriend to either prove to herself or someone else that she can maintain a healthy relationship with another human being. Coming out of the honeymoon phase doesn’t really feel like we were ever there at all.
It’s possible that I have trouble opening up to people, and am looking for reasons to duck out. I suppose that’s why I’m here, am I being unreasonable?
I feel like I’m much more emotionally invested in my relationship than my girlfriend, to the point I believe she is settling for me.