40 thoughts on “What are the most toxic online forums you have ever been a part of?

  1. _____1_____2_____3 March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Eating disorder “recovery” forums that are more like a competition of who’s the sickest.

  2. Fluttertree321 March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    College Confidential

    I never really contributed much, but I used to lurk a bit. And the amount of toxic, self-righteous parents you see trying to subtly but not-so-subtly boast about their children is astounding.

  3. Nerdysylph March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Does Instagram count? Because some of those makeup groups are vicious.

  4. mountydoyle March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Probably some of the ‘pro ana’ forums back when I was younger and really struggling with my eating disorder.

  5. SubMGK March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    GameFAQs had some nice walkthroughs, but rummaging through the threads is like walking around chenobyl naked with your skin stripped off

  6. emirh12 March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Any YouTube comments

  7. RedditIsATimeSucker March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Cafemom. I joined about 8 years ago, and only kept the account for about a year. Those bitches are nothing more than terrorists. They’re hateful, catty, judgemental, and have cliques like the worst mean girls in high school.

  8. maihochzwei March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Gurugossip! I’d never post on there, but I sometimes check it out to get the latest gossip. Man those people over there are nasty. From cheating rumors to child neglect allegations… as soon as a rumor hits the internet, they are all over the place.

  9. Tinyasparagus March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    The Bump, when I was pregnant with my first. Those women did nothing but tear each other down. It was horrible.

  10. Hanzo-vs-Huntsman March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Steam forums, pretty sure its where gamers just go to vent when they’ve been REKT in a game.

    At least that’s how the TF2 discussions where on there, usually full of hate and unnecessary arsiness.

  11. JT_3K March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    My local newspaper comments section. Apparently it’s populated by a heady mix of 50% assholes and 50% racists (where some are racist assholes). Spectacular.

    EDIT: Well this blew up. The one I’m thinking of is the /r/Huddersfield Examiner for those that asked, the paper that took 150 years of semi-quality balanced journalism and flushed it all away in just a few short years.

  12. Millietops March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    r/AsianBeauty gets really cliquish and aggressive at times. I lurked for the longest time before I decided to post there because the rules for posting they are strict with for the average Joe or Jane, but it seems only certain favorites can post whatever they like without consequences. For example, everyone really likes CeraVe products and will recommend then, but then will be shut down for recommending a ‘Western’ product. But then certain peeps will recommend the same CeraVe and those who attacked the person prior for recommending it will wholeheartedly agree with that one poster.

    It’s very much a Queen Bee atmosphere in that sub like you have to earn your place. I’ve held back on posting or asking questions because I just don’t want the bs of being verbally berated or attacked by some of the more fanatical subscribers.

    There are nicer Asian and Korean beauty subs than this one, but r/AsianBeauty is the most populated and comprehensive.

    r/AntiMLM is fun, but they will attack some posters outright and the Mods don’t or won’t take care of the attackers. I’ve seen a number of posters go all out assault on some folks. I’ve seen peeps verbally harass someone over a small matter on a number of occasions. They also forget that a lot of non-Americans are members of their sub and talk down to the non-Americans. There are MLM’s in the UK and Europe too!

  13. THE_LOUDEST_PENIS March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Personally, I found most Yu-Gi-Oh! forums a toxic place (r/yugioh being an exception), each with their core group of racist, sexist neckbeards who were still respected because they did good card things. DuelistGroundz was the worst. Amazing players hung out there, but they also banned women for not flashing on camera for them. It was that kinda place.

  14. TheBassMeister March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    As someone struggling with the other gender I am pretty close to being an incel and joined one of the forums about these people. These people are so misogynistic it is no wonder they are incels. They blame women for everything and call them sluts who only love douchebags. They even want ridiculous things like wanting the government to pay prostitutes for dating challenged men.
    They are just a bunch of virgins playing the victim instead of taking responsibility for their own lives.

  15. marcuschookt March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    I was there in /r/offmychest when shit went downhill. One moment it was just another sub, the next people were getting banned left and right, myself included.

    Admittedly my ban was justified. Rule stated that no criticism was allowed but then this lady made a long post about how she cheated on her husband and it essentially was “a great learning experience” for her to grow in character and all that self-absorbed crap so I couldn’t resist but to say she was a bad person. But then I didn’t just get banned, I also received a very sternly worded mod-message about safe spaces and such.

    A few weeks later shit hit the fan and they quickly turned into the batshit sub you know and love to hate today.

  16. Neckland March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    /rRelationships can be pretty toxic at times. Your husband doesn’t like your socks? Divorce him, then take the house and his job

  17. ironicusage March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Anyone else from Arlington, VA? Because the answer is “the comments section of good ol’ ARLnow.”

  18. InVultusSolis March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    I’ve never actually participated in any of these places, but estranged parents’ forums. The only people who hang around them are abusive parents whose children have cut them out of their lives and they “support” each other by repeating that it’s OK to have abusive behaviors and that the abusive parents did nothing wrong.

    I would actually advise against going into one if you had an abusive childhood at all, it’s like looking straight into the heart of evil.

  19. KarenHigins March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    The entire MOBA community is just the worst thing in the gaming community since every decision you do is wrong to someone and they’re never nice about it.

    “Wow you picked Anti Mage into a Phantom Assassin, you’re stupid”

    “Why did you ban Aatrox, he’s trash tier”


    “GG, hero / champion is split pushing like a dumbass”

    “GG, team isn’t taking objectives like dumbasses”

    “Why did you place a ward there”

    I could probably go on, but it’s the worst place ever and I don’t know why I still play them.

  20. gregsmith93 March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    /r/dmt is just a bunch of delusional conspiracy theorists who claim our subconscience is blocking us from seeing aliens and the only way to see them is by taking a hallucinogenic drug. There are some level headed people on there too but its mainly constructed of echo chambered alien believers.

    Just to clarify im not saying there aren’t aliens out there, all im saying is that just because you tripped on a drug and saw an entity doesn’t mean aliens are trying to communicate with us.

  21. SmoreOfBabylon March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    I try to stay out of particularly toxic forums/subs, but there are a few I’ve had the displeasure of being part of for a time:

    – **Etiquette Hell forums**: for those unfamiliar, this used to be the go-to site for choice Bridezilla/wedding disaster stories (AskReddit is occasionally a good source for these now). The stories were usually pretty good, but the forums were fairly toxic at times. The main problem was that “etiquette” to the people there didn’t actually mean “be an overall decent person”, but rather, “are you following all those esoteric rules from the old etiquette books like you should be?” The main moderator was creepily obsessed with Emily Post et al. and was openly catty and petty as hell if someone tried to argue that some of those old etiquette rules were perhaps too old-fashioned or outdated.

    – **GameFAQs forums**: ’nuff said. Came to offer a few hints to people about PS2 RPGs back in the day, left because there were just too many people who were there to tear down and insult others rather than to actually talk about games.

    – **Any official game forum**: in general, too much entitlement and too many long-winded “this is why I’m quitting this terrible game” threads/screeds. The main reason why I started frequenting individual game subreddits to begin with.

  22. MeppeKR March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    I was a part of a local non-English one.

    They had a section for asking for help with mental health issues. The moderators didn’t give a fuck about the people claiming that everyone who was asking for help was lying or posting suicide cocktails. If someone was suicidal they got censored to protect everyone else.

    I tried helping peeople, so I became the social pariah there. I didn’t mind being called all kinds of names, but they’d also insist that someone in an active attempt at ending her life was making fun of me.

    It’s on the level where even if I spell things out people can’t wrap their heads around it. They go “suicide prevention – so you had a support network there with coworkers and backup”. No, I didn’t. Early on there were other people who tried to help, but they started disappearing when I showed up or just messaging me to get there instead.

    Even if it meant that I had to be in multiple life and death conversations at the same time. I remember realizing that I’d have to prioritize who I was gonna help because I just couldn’t keep up. Everything worked out that time, but I still hate myself for having been prepared to decide.

    I was there for about 18 months spread out over 2 years. When I found that I had difficulties staying coherent I left. It wasn’t enough and it never will be, but I couldn’t keep up anymore.

  23. Chili_Maggot March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Not really a forum in itself, but the community for this old PS2 game called Star Ocean: Till the End of Time. The item creation is really complex, to the point that I have to look up a guide. And *oh my god* these people hate each other.

    One poster would say something. Someone would reply “HEY! You should do some research before spouting off about what you THINK you know! It makes you look like an IDIOT. ACTUALLY you don’t need to bother recruiting Grats for blah blah blah…”

    “Wow. You’re a COMPLETE moron. Maybe YOU should do some research. If you don’t recruit blah for blah…”

    This wasn’t after a lengthy discussion. This is at the drop of a hat. They are filled with fiery passion over a PS2 game from 2003 that few people know or care about.

  24. jewzak March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    I live in Cincinnati and we’re pretty proud of our Bunbury music festival. This year there was this huge debate on a Bunbury forum outside of reddit about who was going to be on the lineup that got progressively more and more chaotic as it got closer to being released. Anonymous people said they were radio station workers that had access, people were dropping hints, no one could tell who was lying and telling the truth, stuff got really heated for no good reason.

    The lineup kinda blows.

  25. RyFromTheChi March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    The Yahoo! comment sections are pretty ridiculous.

  26. PC509 March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    AVSim. If you’re into flight sim, you know this one. They used to be alright and a fun place. When I left, they had sucked all the fun out of it.

  27. cdeverett March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Dogecoin, but on IRC. Bear with me.

    Plenty of people were chatty, others went hoping for “soaks” (group tipping, free coins). I became a regular chatter.

    A user on there, who knew I’m a widower, got pissy at me one day and said (open channel, not private) something very close to “at least your wife checked out before you.”

    Stay classy.

  28. slapuwithafish March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Allspark.com and TFW2005.com, by far. Fan sites for Transformers collectors. The discussion boards are raw cancer. Full of cliques made up of deliberately weird, emotionally needy manchildren who clearly don’t have their shit together. In hindsight I’m not sure what else I expected.

    I got sucked in back in the late 90s (during the Beast Wars era), but gave it up for good during the ramp-up to the first Michael Bay movie.

    I still enjoy collecting and am still a fan, but I won’t go near any of the boards these days.

  29. Caruthers March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    I don’t know if anything quite beats your average college sports forum. Take the insanity of people whose happiness hinges on the result of a child’s game, make that game played by actual teenagers, and throw in the recruiting of future and younger teenagers to the mix….it’s a fucking mess of adults fighting and crying over kids playing games.

  30. Meatros March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    This will probably get buried, but FB family forums and/or posts. Those are some of the most toxic ‘discussions’ (and I use that term loosely) I’ve ever been a part of.

    They can *start* over pretty tame topics, but when reason gets thrown away and then some pretty vile stuff gets tossed around. I’ve seen family members throw *dead family members* under the bus, accusing them of all sorts of misdeeds and *all publicly accessible to the public.

    If you post something political, it’s bashed and your intelligence is questioned. Post something controversial and the same thing happens. In both cases you’ll get insulted and *then the person doing the insulting will play the victim*.

    It’s utterly bizarre.

  31. morning_stand March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Back when I was a tween, I used to go in MTV chat rooms and there was one for the show Daria. The dynamic in that group was insane. There was one guy who used to pretend to be the lead singer of the band Silverchair, to the point where everyone thought it was actually him. Earliest catfishing I can recall. So there were these girls in there that basically worshipped the dude and it was bad. Then we all moved from there to Livejournal and shit got real.

  32. ftwin March 14, 2018 / 9:45 am

    Literally any news article’s comment section on facebook.

    Also r/halo.

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